The world seems to evolve fast..especially the software world. Last I knew we still had to manually upload images to flickr and link them to blog posts. And now...whoa! not only images but video too. Gmail is finally putting to use the storage servers they have!

Good for you!

Time to get back to blogrolling  ¶ 9:23 PM

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Just a random email post
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  Applying optimal 'positioning' to relationship negotiations

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Yesterday a friend of mine called up to discuss an issue she was facing in her relationship. I heard her out, and had the feeling she's pitching in her position the wrong way. The 'issue' was about whether she stays at her spouse's place after marriage or at her place. She insisted on 'her' place, while the guy firmly denied succumbing to that proposition. On the surface, both seemed to have valid reasons, but on probing deeper I figured what she really wanted vs what she was asking for differently althoughly implicitly the same/similar. A case of things going wrong because of incorrect 'positioning'. So here's what I suggested:

1. Go back to the drawing board, and write down (yes literally write) your core points. In her case it was 'the things she should be able to do at her spouse's place)

2. Find out what are the other 'optional' items. While negotiating it may be useful to throw a few of those across too (eg: sometimes staying at her own place)

3. Create a bare minimum statement (a few sentences ) of the above 2 and deliver to your spose during the talk (mgmt ppl read 'negotiation')

4. While negotiating, start with mellowing down the other party by party succumbing to their wishes. Gives a much more acceptance to the other parties thoughts (and in most situations allows enough leeway to get your 'optional' items also accepted!).  Another key point to keep in mind is not to over-talk/over-deliver. Deliver the minimum statement prepared under point 3 and thereafter keep shut. Allow thought digestion.

In this example, it helped her realize that the point she seemed to be driving with her husband was infact and optional point. Positioning the option point in advance of the core points was creating the unacceptable from her husband's side. During her next round of talks (negotiation) she 1. succumbed to some wishes of her to-be spouse thus mellowing him down  2. positioned her core points first  3. finally managed to get some of her optional points accepted as well-including staying at her place.

A win by just focussing on positioning!

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  strange relationship we meet everyday, we smile, and then we talk. Talk of our well being, talk of our woes, talk of what shit (literally) not ! but unsurprisingly I have no clue of what she spoke. I am referring the the maid who cleans up our office toilet, a talkative girl at the very least. Lately i have realized that she shares this special place with many others, chitchatting her way while she cleans the toilet and we finish our business. Before the imaginations start to run wild, let me mention, we all (not sure of all!) use compartments in the toilet. The more I think of it, the stranger I find it to be. We have fun, we talk of our problems and we sometimes even solve them, just like friends do, but without a faint idea of whether the other is even speaking on something remotely related !

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  things TB'ers shld learn NOT going into too much detail at the start
- the iteration way
- concentrate on the learning and not on the end result

good points
-objectivity

but too much objectivity restricts ideas

india motto- rules are made to be broken!
spore motto- rules are life

eg demolishing of bldngs for mrt- the MORCHA concept. strikes

success in organziation comes from learning to work around rules...but dont overdo it

understrand each person seperately....and dont form first impressions

the problem of not having too much to talk about end up in ppl talking about ppl
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